I ended up in Salemi, and then after 5 days and a change of plans I decided to rehire the car for another 2 weeks and drive via the coast to Rome, taking my time and spending some time in the Amalfi Coast and go to Pompeii.

I thought I would stop by Danilo’s for a night on my way to the ferry crossing at Messina. I couldn’t drive almost past and not the extra 20kms without saying hello to his family I had grown to love so much almost three weeks before. It was my birthday on Saturday, today in fact, and Danilo’s just a few days before so I thought it would be good to stop over for one night. On my arrival I was greeted with surprise by his aunt, grandmother who I have since learnt is Josephine, and Clara, Danilo’s mother. They had only been told by Danilo a half hour before my arrival that I was coming so hurriedly prepared my room. Such beautiful Sicilian hospitality it didn’t bother them that he hadn’t informed them until now. So typical of Danilo, he is very casual. I was slightly embarrassed but they said don’t worry.
Danilo was gone, he had a diploma party to go to in Catania. I had arranged to be there earlier and go along as well but the trip was long and slow along the highway from Palermo. Full of tunnels, for some 80kms. Some as long as 3kms, without illumination, it required intensive concentration driving through them. At times you would become mesmerised by the continuous yellow reflective signs on the side of the tunnel walls. It was hot, perhaps 38-40 degrees in the sun but the relief of the cool tunnels was enough to keep the windows down, the CD up high and the sounds of Simply Red echoing through the tunnels was incredible. I chose to drive in the early afternoon, as I have learnt the roads aren’t so busy while the Sicilians enjoy their siesta time. I feel a lot safer and at times I would be the only car on the massive highway for km after km. It was probably one of the most picturesque and interesting drives I have ever done. A highway lined with pink and white Oleanders, Canadian vines, olive and citrus groves with a backdrop of the aquamarine Mediterranean Sea to the left and enormous rocky mountains to the right. Breathtaking at times, I wish I could have stopped to photograph the beautiful landscape. At one point I was in awe of a village 100m above one tunnel, its pastel coloured terraced houses and quaint Byzantine churches clinging to the rocky outcrop, it seemed as though it was waiting to be gently nudged over the side. It was just a glimpse between two tunnels so I didn’t have the opportunity to photograph this incredible architectural accomplishment.
Driving through Sicily has given me a new appreciation of all the Italian concreters and engineers we have in Australia. It is a labyrinth of concrete structures, soaring bridges with spans 100mts above the natural earth below, snaking their way between mountains and valleys. Incredible.
After my arrival, Antonella, Danilo’s aunt, Mama and I sat and chatted about my trip over the past two and a half weeks, following the map I had. We sat drinking some Baileys Antonella had made from the recipe my mother had sent me on the internet...delicious. She offered to take me to the Bingo again with her friends, Cossimo, Mima, Maria and Giacomo, later that evening, so after a dinner of green beans and pasta soup with Clara and Franco I headed downstairs to freshen up and head out with Antonella. We spent another night in Messina at the Bingo Hall, unfortunately not at all lucky this time so we arrived back around midnight, I was really tired from my journey that day so fell asleep in moments.
It must have been about 2 hours later that I heard Danilo come back from the party and enter the house. I am on the ground floor where the entry to the house is, so people usually come and go from the door in my small two roomed apartment. Its split by an old wardrobe and a cane three sided divider, little privacy but it’s perfectly fine. They are not intrusive people and usually pass through without notice.
Danilo whispered “Maree-lyn? H-are you awake?” His voice is gentle and has a melodic tone about it every time he speaks. So sweetly Sicilian. His English is good, even with his extra “h’s” on some of his words, like “h-are you?, “h-age”, “h-afternoon”, “h-aunt”, “h-angry”, “h-oats”, “h-owl”. From a small village, a good looking young man who has travelled quite a lot and has spent a lot of time with English speaking people, some time in Finland and France, in fact he says, he doesn’t fit into Sicilian life anymore and he invites travellers to come and stay to “keep his piece of mind”. His English is soft spoken with a beautiful Italian accent. Standing at the end of my bed, he asks again “hey Maree-lyn , h-are you sleeping?” “H-Are you ti-red?”. Well I was, but now I am not, I wanted to say but I was glad to hear that beautiful melodic voice again. “I have bought you a pistaccio and chocolate croissant, do you want to h-eat it?”
Ha, so funny I chuckle to myself. “Well no but I will in the morning. How are you? I have missed you.”
“Yes me too” he politely replied and sat at the end of my bed. I said “by the way, happy birthday”. His reply of “t-hankyou” reminded me of how sweet he was.
He went to bed and I ate some of my pistaccio and chocolate croissant he had bought for me.
Next morning I woke early to grab some cornflakes and earl grey tea, before long I knew Danilo would be coming downstairs and announcing our usual pilgrimage to Maria’s bar for “coff-ee”. And he did, but not until after 10am. He was “ti-red” after his rare late night out. He doesn’t socialise around here very much. Many of his old friends have moved away for university or to Rome and Northern Italy as most of the early 20’s to late 30’s do in these small villages of Sicily. He had studied engineering but it seems he dropped out a few years ago, “not free enough and I want to be free. One day I will t-hink about what I want to do. But now I want to be free to travel and learn about the world”. His brother Maximillian, Max as he is called, is a perpetual student and at the age of 32 is still at University, living on the handouts from his parents. It seems they are not alone in this life in Sicily, they all do that.

We finally have the coffee and head to the country house up the hill. Antonella is already there and I feel guilty that its almost midday before I can come and help to earn my keep. I offer to clean the pool as I had done it before, but she insists that we swim first, prepare lunch, eat, rest and we will clean the pool when its cooler in the afternoon. So we do. Danilo doesn’t swim but just plunges in and out of the pool. Then retreats to the sunlounge for a while before he goes off fidgeting and pottering again. We eat lunch, delicious hamburgers with melted cheese, sort of broiled in oil and water and baked under aluminium foil on top of the stove, some salad and bread of course. Antonella and I have wine, Danilo beer, but only 1 small bottle. He doesn’t drink much at all and often waters it down. Mama has water, as usual. Antonella had planned to go to Castelmoro, a small hilltop village above Taormina that night with her work colleagues and asked would I like to join them. I was thrilled to visit the town so talked about with its bar of phallic symbols, known around the world...but not to me. We were to leave around 7.45pm to be there for dinner at 8.30pm.
A few hours respite from the sun and dressing up for a night out was something I looked forward to. We drove to Taormina and met with Josephine (Phina) standing along side the road at a prearranged spot. Maria and Nino were there as well, but on a scooter, leading the way up the narrow road and saved a parking spot for us closest to the village centro. We parked and walked only a few hundred metres to the village square with its terrace overlooking the valley some 500mts below and further to the sea in the distance. Another hilltop village from 400+BC, another breathtaking view with Mt Etna in the distance, narrow oneway streets and skinny terraced houses cramped along the hillside. I wonder at the work that would have been involved all those centuries before us to build and maintain these villages. How lucky was I that Antonella and her work colleagues were all local tour guides. Some with English, Dutch and Spanish languages to their resume. I had no shortage of historical information given to me as waited for the rest of the dinner party to arrive. As we walked through the village, it was just turning dark, no lights at all. All the shops were operating on battery power, candles or nothing but still open to any passing tourists that still remained in the village. It was a blackout apparently, had been for just on half an hour before we got there. Such a shame for the village which totally relies on tourism. It’s difficult enough with a crisis and the lack of tourists in comparison with previous summers, let alone a blackout scaring off what few tourists were there that evening. We walked along and down the narrowest of streets to a pizza restaurant prebooked by Phina.

Two very well rounded men and apparently quite famous, so they say, greeted us at the steps up into the narrow alfresco dining area. It was on a slight incline so all the chairs are lined up along but slightly leaning downhill, as were the tables. Very quaint. In darkness we could barely make our way to find a chair, let alone read the menu. As every good tour guide is prepared, Nicola, one of Antonella colleagues had a torch in her handbag and each of us were given the opportunity to use it to decide what to eat. The menu was limited of course due to the lack of electricity, claimed one of our two fat hosts. Mine was again limited by my allergy to garlic. Spaghetti Salmone was perfect for me, Antonella and Maria joined me in the same. The others ordered various pastas, and side salads. Bottles of natural or sparkling water and local white wines flooded the table. Our hosts found some candles for our tables, but left the “tourists” sitting in the dark negotiating their way through their meals. I asked why they didn’t supply candles for all? Hmmm maybe because they didn’t ask for them?

Soon we were also given some complimentary bruscietta, deliciously tasty Sicilian tomatoes and onion on toasted bread as the “tour guide” stories seem to flow, of course in Italian with Antonella occasionally translating the gist of the stories. It was great fun. I liked these peoples company and listening to them all talk was interesting and a great way to familiarise myself with the accents. Domenica, was from German/Italian parents and spoke a little English she claimed, Maria spoke quite good English and her husband Nino none, but had a cheerful disposition and smiled a lot. Nicola and her husband, who I think was Guiseppe, none at all. They have one of the many gelataria’s in Taormina. We had met up with them the few weeks before on our night out there. Phina, very good English, so I wasn’t forgotten during conversations, though I did insist they didn’t need to translate everything to me, I was happy to just listen and learn.
Not long before we were to leave and we had finished our meal, voila! the lights came on and showed us that we were the only ones left in the now empty restaurant. However, people started coming out of the woodwork to eat, it was near on 10.30pm but they do that in Sicily, eat late.
The others all had work the next day so we ciao, ciaoed them off in the usual manner before Antonella and I headed into the main square, now lit up like a fairy tale village towards the “Phallic bar”, called “T something?” There it was so tastefully decorated, if you could call it that, all done out in “phallic symbols”, a sign of fertility Antonella explains as we climb up the narrow staircases to the second level overlooking the church and quaint central square now filled with tables of late night diners. Its still hot so we head for a balcony table to observe the interior of the restaurant/bar. Even the curtain holders! Haha...pity its too dark for my camera, ....true, I am always sorry its not a good night camera picture taker! A lemoncello for me and a ghastly medicine like nightcap for Antonella and we tiredly make our way back to the car and home for bed. Its been another interesting visit to another place in Sicily.

Antonella and I head out early to buy a pool umbrella from the “Umbrella Shop” in Santa Theresa some 6kms away. She had seen them there earlier that week. On our way we travel down the narrow main street where it is “certainly taking your life in your own hands” territory. A Sicilian standoff occurs at one narrow intersection where there are at least 10 cars, us included, locked up where no one can go anywhere for at least 5 mins. Its jammed, One car cannot move because another has blocked his way, thus backing up the traffic behind us for almost 100mts. The side roads both blocked with cars zig zagged, begging for position entering the main road. Cars in front of us too wide to squeeze past those on the left. Hahaha.......all TOOOTING their horns loudly and most of the drivers shouting abuse at each other. People are stopped on the street to watch, shopkeepers standing out front their stores, signalling to the passing trade who was at fault but no one prepared to direct the cars into some sort of order. It was hilarious! I couldn’t believe it...........only in Sicily! Or perhaps Italy in general would this happen? Eventually we were on our way again. Too hot to stay outside for too long by 11.00am we were back at the country house for a swim in the pool. Danilo had joined us and after lunch we retreated to the coolness of the village house for a sleep, then an icecream of course.
Danilo and I were going to “The Godfather” town, not too far away for dinner that night so we rested up and didn’t eat too much in the afternoon. Its Savoca, where they filmed the Godfather movies, I and II representing Corleone, which is near Palermo. Its another hilltop village, beautifully positioned above Taormina with a narrow winding road. I was to drive in my rental for the first time in this area. I had driven all over Sicily but for some reason, this area is crazy drivers, narrow one or two way streets you have to pull over to pass another car so I was nervous driving. Luckily Danilo is very patient and not a lead foot, so he was comforting and encouraging in my driving skills up to the top. We parked and found a beautiful pizzeria set amongst the treetops like a tree house. Not yet part of the centro township but beautiful all the same. We selected a seafood menu of cozze gratinee, mussels with a breadcrumb cheese topping baked in the oven as a starter, then calamari and a mixed fish platter with scampi and swordfish, more calamari, a mixed salad, bottle of white local wine, not so good, and bottled water. It was all pretty delicious but the mussels were to die for and I will be looking out for those again on a menu sometime. Totalled 37.50 euros, just under $50 for the lot.....amazing! We ate and then headed into the village where the movie was shot all those years ago. The restaurant/bar Bar Vitelli, an attractive building called Palazzo Trimarchi with a balcony and bedecked with plants, featured in the opening scene of Francis Ford Coppolas famous film “The Godfather” I believe is still exactly the same. People standing out front, cameras poised for that memorable photo of their visit there. Danilo and I walked up the hill to the Castello taking in the breathtaking view to the Mediterranean, I chose an abandoned house that I would buy if I won lotto. It was derelict but had a vine covered terrace that looked down onto the village, towards the Castello and out to the sea in the distance. Money probably couldn’t buy it.........but one could dream! Sadly it was too dark for the photos!
It was still hot and around midnight so we headed back to the country house. His brother had called and said he was heading up there to have a swim. Danilo claimed “its almost your birthday and we should do something crazy like this for your birthday?” Why not? We stopped off at the village house and grabbed our swim suits, change of clothes and towels and headed up there. The house was still dark but illuminated the whole hill as we turned on the lights of the pool area. Danilo and I couldn’t resist the coolness of the pool, it was still about 25degrees, its midnight and the pool thermometer read 27degrees........voila! My son BJ called on my mobile with birthday wishes a few minutes after midnight, my phone out of credits cuts out before I have time to really thank him. Now this is a great start to my birthday. A little after that fireworks go off as we can see in the distance from Santa Theresa and the fiesta that filled the streets with market stalls earlier in the night. Soon a chill fills the air around me as I am cold from the wet clothes I am wearing, so I am keen to head back down to the village house for a warm shower and sleep. Its been a long hot day. Im loving it!
Today is my birthday and I have rested most of the day. I went down to the little bar and Maria greeted me with “il Compleanno” meaning happy birthday and insisted my morning Cafe Freddo was on the house for my birthday. Almost everyone I have met today has wished me happy birthday with the kissy kissy each side of the cheek. Word travels fast and I’m sure Danilo is passing it around, he is so sweet. Tomorrow I am leaving and heading off to Calabria along the coast on my way to Rome.

It’s Sunday and we finished off my birthday last night with a trip with Danilo’s cousin to “The Twin” pub in some town, forgotton the name, close to Taormina. It was a lively place in a town filled with young and not so young party goers. Heaps of late night revellers, mobile vendors that you can sit at your table and buy almost anything I am sure as they come up and sell anything from roses to childrens toys, watches and illuminated lamps. That’s the funny thing about Sicily, perhaps Europe, I have been in some remote village and all of a sudden a street vendor comes along or truck laden with goods from fish or water melons, to folding chairs and sofas bellows out from his truck about his daily specials he has on board.
It was a great night, we had dinner earlier with a friend of his, Abel, now a resident of Sicily, but originally from Columbia, a lovely funny man, but unfortunately a Sagittarian, so we were doomed from the start, we all laughed about that. Danilo, and his cousin and I are all Cancerians....we don’t do Sagittarians well we agreed!
My attempt to leave early was forgotten when my lovely Sicilian family encouraged me to stay for a last lunch and swim in the pool. It was just midday and already the temperature had soared to in the late 30’s. The ferry from Messina runs every 40mins and my two hour trip to the Hotel in Coccorino wasn’t too hard to do from off the main highway. My last meal was just as delicious as the first and all in between. Clara so thoughtful as always of my allergy to garlic and chilli, directed me to the peppers cooked without garlic to one side. Green peppers sautéed in home made olive oil till just tender, sautéed spinach, tomato and onion salad drizzled with home grown grape vinegar and olive oil, a frittata of onions, egg and grated cheese. Fresh bread and watermelon as usual to finish. I am certainly going to miss her cooking.
I stood on the terrace overlooking Roccalumere for possibly the last time ever and looked out to sea about 2kms away in the distance and saw a yacht sailing by in the choppy waters. I thought how appropriate as I reflected on my past 5 weeks in Sicily. How lucky I was to be “dumped” on this gem of an island, the diamante buckle on the end of the boot of Italy. How amazing that it was my destiny to see, learn and love Sicily so much. The people, the landscape, the history, the food, the wine and the language I have absorbed in such a short time. How fortunate that I got the opportunity to experience all I have here, and to think I could have just sailed on by not getting the chance. It has taught me we all need to get off the boat, out of our cars and houses we live in, jump off that horse and walk around at a slower pace a bit more often.
So it was sad farewells and thanks to Antonella for her lovely birthday gift, a pendant necklace, to Mama, a loving hug as usual, to Clara and Franco for their hospitality and of course Danilo, my kindred spirit.
As I boarded the Messina to Calabria ferry I bid a fond farewell to Sicily. It really has been as unexpected surprise of an island. I knew nothing about it, rarely discussed on travel shows or in conversations, except with its association with the mafia. By the way I didn’t see or hear anything on the mafia goings on except in jest. I have read pages of books, Midnight in Sicily by Peter Robb, visited the Godfather town and even lived mot less than 20kms from one of the biggest “hits” in mafia history, the judge Giovanni Falcone near Palermo, but I haven’t met one “Don”. Suspicions of some but nothing ‘concrete’, pardon the pun!
So Grazie Sicily, Grazie Danilo and the many people and families I have met along my journey, you all have a special place in my heart.
Ciao and ci vediamo dopo
xxxMarilyn